Dream Killers


I don’t think it is unreasonable to say that every person on this planet has dreams about a more fulfilling future. Some dream small and others on a grand scale. It is thus sad to think that many, if not most, of these wonderful dreams never come to fruition.


Most of us find realizing our dreams somewhat of a challenge, because there always things that seem to stand in our way. Let’s call them for what they can be – dream killers.


Justin Harmon, who writes for Unplugged Recreated took stock of his own experiences and wrote a blog post about these dream killers – and how to avoid them. We take a look at some of my favorite ones.





We all know this one very well. “Whatever, you’ll never be able to do that. Come back to reality.” Sound familiar? Just because someone else can’t do something, they think you can’t do it either. Don’t let a non-believer keep you from chasing your dreams. In fact, you’re just better off not talking to them about it. Let’s face it, the only way to turn them into a “believer”, is to show them. Actions do speak louder than words.†



This is by far my biggest pet peeve, because I too am guilty of it (a lot). Something negative will always surface (many, many times) on your journey. Don’t let something negative whether it be someone or an obstacle, stop you from moving forward. Try to use that negativity to your advantage.

I always find that when something negative comes along, I use it as fuel for my desire. I take it and aim to prove myself by focusing harder. Try and do the same. Negativity will always be there, might as well use it.



The number 1 reason why I am writing this today instead of 5 years ago. Laziness comes in many forms. You lose your inspiration, you’re too tired, you procrastinate, lost motivation, put your dream on the back burner to focus on something that better suits your needs now, yadda, yadda, yadda.. It’s ok to take the occasional day off. Just don’t let laziness turn you into a sloth.

Look for ways to stay focused, driven, motivated, and inspired. I find my inspiration daily from other personal development sites, books, e-books, quotes, music, and deep thinking. Staying inspired is the best way to keep chasing your desires, without succumbing to couch-lock.



Fear of the unknown, fear of change, fear of failure. There are countless reasons caused by fear that stops us from pursuing our dreams and aspirations. One method that has helped me rid some of these fears, is to accept them as an obstacle. An obstacle that if I can pass, I will advance on my quest. Look at fear as a chance to take a giant leap forward towards your passions. Once you pass a fear, you gain a vast amount of courage that will take you to the next level, leaps and bounds faster.



Money. I once believed that money was an unbeatable restraint to following my passion. I was wrong. It’s only an illusion. You don’t have to have much money to follow your dreams. You can start out with a small amount and still chase your passions. Just take a look at the “100 Dollar Startup“, by Chris Guillebeau. Many have started life of living on their own terms doing what they love for a small amount of cash. Don’t let money be an excuse to stop you, that’s what “they” want you to think. Who is “they”, I don’t know, others not on board with you.


Low Self-Esteem

Having a lowly image of yourself is not only a dream killer, but doesn’t even allow you have the dream to begin with. I have been there. You don’t feel good enough, you feel ugly, worried about what others think desperately searching for their approval. Guess what? You don’t need anyone’s approval. Who cared what others think.

More than likely you are in a situation you don’t need to be in. Whether it is a relationship that holds you down, or loneliness that causes you sadness and self torment. Change your routine and do it before it’s too late. Start to surround yourself with better people. Those that accept others for who they are and encourage you to be yourself. Read some good personal development books. Ones that actually give you hope and inspiration, not the ones that are only out to throw a gimmick at you. Most importantly, search inside yourself and find the inner voice that appreciates you for who you are. Bring the real you up the surface and stop worrying so much. You’re alright by me


Over analyzing

Thinking too much about what you are doing when in pursuit of a dream will have you re-thinking it, changing it, re-thinking it, deleting it, re-writing it, and you get the point. I have a had a tremendous issue with over analyzing every situation in my life. When it came to having a dream that I thought I wanted to take action on, I would basically think myself out of it and move on to something else.

Of course you want to make sure you are taking action on a dream that you will fully devote yourself to, but to over analyze it to the point of exhaustion will only leave you stressed and changing your mind. During my time of over-thinking and analyzing my ideas, I could have reached far greater accomplishments if I had given my dream a chance. A funny experience (or painful), I had is when I had an initial dream of changing the world in someway through an online website, 2 years ago, is that it ended up being the one I went after in the end, or present day.†

It is all a learning experience nonetheless, but one that could take far less time, if you only analyze and not over do it. In other words, think and know but don’t think and not know…uh..yeah.



Justin’s complete article is available here on Steven Aitchison’s blog Change Your Change.


I certainly recognize some of these dream killers in my life. Do you in yours?  What about giving us your opinion in the comments section below.



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